gender bender
noun
- person who "bends" expected gender roles
Wiktionary
noun
- A person who dresses in the clothes of another sex, or in clothes which make their gender identity ambiguous.
- An event where people are encouraged to dress in the clothes of another sex, even if they would normally not.
- A person capable of changing their physical sex.
- An instance of someone's physical sex being changed, usually via magic.